good twin/bad twin

Good twin/bad twin. It’s just the dichotomy we’re meant to avoid, all the books say so. One child who puts her coat on and goes to bed when she’s supposed to, and wears a halo for it. The other with a forked tail between his legs, because he doesn’t do either of those things without a drop-down fight. Praise the positive behavior, discipline the negative, it sounds simple enough. But what happens when the breakdown of behavior between twins, between any siblings really, is continually reinforcing an angel/devil dynamic? Do you let things slide for the “bad” kid so as to not make him feel oppressed or less loved? Do you hold back compliments from the “good” kid for the very same reason?

You can read the rest of the post here, at Brain, Child Magazine.

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3 responses to “good twin/bad twin

  1. Richard Apfel

    Laugh out loud as usual.

    Knowing them makes it that much funnier.

    See you soon.

    Love, Dad

    Sent from my iPad

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  2. This picture: SO GOOD. xoxo

  3. georgiadann

    I’m new to this mommy thing so I am just starting to have to consider things like this. Eek. But that picture is so awesome! I love it!

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